These range from silly to sappy to serious, and some even totally unrealistic, BUT—a mama can wish and pray and hope. Because that is what we do.
I would truly die of parental happiness if:
- My daughter would wake me with hot coffee every morning. And then get in bed with me to snuggle.
- My kids would learn to use a towel more than ONCE. The laundry piles up so fast, and right now we have NO laundry room. (#remodelingisachoice #nowhiners)
- The boys would clean up the pee (their pee!) around the toilet. Daily.
- My teenager would eat more green veggies.
- My teenager would clean his room. Sometime. Somehow.
- My kids would do their chores without me EVER reminding them. Now that’s realistic, eh?
- My “special guy” Ryan would only ask 100 questions per day instead of 1000.
- My kids learn to drive without making me crazy nervous, and zero accidents.
- They decided video games were total junk food for their brains and quit playing them forever.
- Getting out the door for ANYTHING was easy, fast, and a happy process for all involved.
- Bedtimes were blissful. See last bullet point.
- My kids stayed away from boyfriend/girlfriend stuff till college years.
- And when they do get to that stage, told all their dates they won the lottery with the parents they got.
On a more serious note, I would die of parental happiness if…
- My daughter, Kate, never has (any more) friendship drama or experience “mean girls.”
- That Ryan would have one or two true friends in his adult years.
- That Luke would always have buddies who truly have his back, are full of honesty and integrity, and appreciate his witty ways.
- Luke and Kate have long-term friendships with people who inspire them and challenge them, and with whom they can have vulnerable, authentic relationships.
- Luke and Kate marry who we want them to marry. No, I mean, whom God wants them to marry.
In terms of their personhood:
- My boys always felt capable and courageous.
- Same goes for Kate.
- That Kate would know her true beauty comes from within and not struggle with body-image issues.
- Have a sense of both humor and wonder about life.
- That my kids would discover and pursue their true passions in life. Without the gremlins of fear and anxiety getting in the way.
- That their passions would include reaching out to those in need, locally and globally.
- My children grow up with a healthy embracing and understanding of their sexuality (and hopefully, purity, till marriage).
- Kate and Luke feel a strong bond with Ryan, and feel a compassionate responsibility (not burden) for Ryan in their adult years, and/or after Chris and I pass on.
In terms of faith and emotional health:
- That all my kids would have a solid, rich faith in God, and that their lives would speak volumes of love and compassion and generosity.
- My children knew that despite hardship and trials in life that God allows, He is still full of goodness and faithfulness, and worthy of their trust in Him.
- Their major life decisions would be bathed in prayer and wise counsel.
- Speaking of wise counsel, that they would seek help or therapy in times of need; that their egos or pride would not stop them.
- A cure for Prader-Willi syndrome (Ryan’s genetic disorder) was discovered; or at least the hyperphagia part of PWS. And maybe the question-asking-part, too. 😉
- That they would be very self-aware, but not selfish, self-absorbed, or self-centered.
- They live with intentionality. And wisdom. And humor.
- That my kids would say when they grow up, that they absolutely knew and felt they were loved and secure in our family.
- Despite my showing of my humanity, flaws, and failures, that Luke, Kate, and Ryan know that I was their #1 Fan, full of unconditional love and grace and confidence in them.
I could go on and on with what I hope and dream and pray for my three not-so-tiny-anymore children. I didn’t even talk about what kind of marriages I hope they have, or financial responsibility or… I feel fierce hope for their futures, and I love them with an ocean-full of love. I’m sure I will add to this list as the years go on and on. Because I will never stop being their mother.