What if, we gave our kids the gift of being brutally honest with us?
I had this thought today. Maybe type up some questions or fill-in-the-blank sentences, wrap it up with a bow and stick it in their stockings.
And hope they will take the time to answer. Candidly. Bravely. Boldly. Laced with love, not harshness.
A few ideas:
1). I wish, MOM, that you would___________________________
2). I wish, MOM, that you would NOT______________________
3). I love it when you______________________________________
4). I get really mad when you____________________________
5). I get embarrassed when you__________________________
6). Please don’t cook ___________________ ever again.
7). Please make _________________ more often.
8). My best memory from this year was__________________
9). My worst memory from this year was_________________
10). Our family can improve on____________________________
11). Our family does this _______________________ really well.
12). I know that I am loved because_______________________
What would you add to the list? Would you have them fill out something like this for every member of the family?
We are not a family that does regular “family meetings”. (I think it’s a great idea.) Maybe you do, and you all communicate along these lines, or try to foster this type of communication. I feel like I may do some of it individually, but not very often.
I’m going to try this. Ask me how it goes. Ask me IF MY KIDS FILL THIS OUT. And if I remember to create time and space for them to do this. Ask me if I nag them or if I gently remind them.
Ask me IF I am glad that I did this, how I felt, and what came of it.